Kugonana ndi mlendo kapena bwenzi latsopano kuli ndi zabwino zake. Zimawonjezera zochitika, ngakhale lingaliro la choletsedwa chotero kwa ambiri limadzutsa, kuwerengera mphamvu ndi malingaliro a mnzanuyo. Kugonana mu bar kumakhala kosangalatsa komanso kosasangalatsa ngati pabedi. Kugonana kumatako ndi kusisita kwa banjali kumayenera kuyamikiridwa ndi kulimbikitsidwa.
Kwa iwo omwe amadziwira okha kuti kugonana ndi chiyani, nthawi yomweyo zimawonekeratu kuti ndi negro ya minofu, yomwe ili ndi thunthu lalikulu, imatha kukhutiritsa atsikana awiriwa. Kwa munthu woyera wokhala ndi kukula kwapakati, malo oterowo omwe Negro adawotcha sangawalepheretse.